Friday, March 7, 2014

"Personal Happiness" #OPINION & Rihanna’s “We All Want Love" #MUSICVIDEO #DianaMarySharpton #UHaveMyLov

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Introduction:

Everything depends on the moment the spice hits the pan: whether it sizzles with mouthwatering fragrance or turns to ash. Once, I thought happiness was the sizzle in the pan. But it’s not. Happiness is the spice – that fragile speck, beholden to the heat, always and forever tempered by our environment.” 


― Sasha Martin,


Personal Happiness

A famous philosopher once stated that “Happiness is the settling of the soul into its most appropriate spot.” –Aristotle. This said, what is the definition of your personal happiness? I see so many posts that prescribe the achievement of personal happiness via specific actionable items. They focus on aspects, bits and pieces or negativity that affect us personally and that hang over our heads like rain clouds. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to “find” that everlasting love of your life, or when you look in the mirror, “seeing” yourself 30 to 40 pounds lighter? My personal favorite is “quitting” the bad habits, smoking, drinking, eating (yes eating) and even the job that presumably provides no personal growth and/or eludes participation in that infamous equation referencing specifics in “career growth” except for delivering a pay check. Just my opinion, but everything is relative in the approach to understanding your personal happiness barometer.

At a much younger age, I felt the same way as the posted prescriptions and tried to change specific circumstances that were affecting my mood, or at least this was what I thought at the time (i.e. Get a divorce, lose weight, make more money, find someone that gets me, own a fancy car) on and on for eons; however looking back I surmise that except “quitting” unhealthy habits the action had short term affect and pretty soon I was unhappy again. Because the problem is not in specifics and I do not quarrel with addressing issues; however what really matters long term is in our overall outlook on life, what it has to offer us as individuals and how we embrace a balance between the positive and negative in living, at least it is for me. Happiness is the choice you make every morning when you look at yourself in the mirror.

So am I really unhappy, happy or am I just wrapped up in chasing specifics? Let’s take a look at that.

Childhood:         I lived in paradise with two amazing parents. Not perfect; however not bad! The privilege of being raised within two different cultures and countries gave me experiences and enriched my perspective towards diversity, culture and the ability to think introspectively beyond my dreams. This is the central core of who I am as a person, today. 

There was a dark moment during this time which I can say with confidence that I have healed and moved on. It affected me deeply but also made me a survivor, a fighter, someone who wants to live life to it's fullest. If you know me the details of this period of time are not important anymore.

Teenage Years: My parents didn’t know what to do with this phase in my life so they sent me to boarding school. Did this affect specific’s in future happiness? No! I was a wild hair at home and continued this behavior in boarding school lol!. Do I regret it? No! This taught me to take risks, to be brave, adventurous and think outside of safe parameters.

Marriages:          Like everyone, I have had a few disappointments. Could it have been better? Were there bad choices involved? Hell yes! However there is a positive side to all events that challenge our emotional and or physical state of being. You have to look for them individually and collectively. In this case, it is my children and the personal growth as a woman. I use to be of the opinion that I was nothing without a man by my side now I believe a man can certainly enhance my life but he can never define it!One thing for, I was never in-love with any of them as I am today.

Education:          Higher education was never given to me. I chose to put myself through school and it was a suffering. I was married, raising children and working; but I never quit. I am proud of this accomplishment and no one can take this away. Oh yes there were those days, failures, walking away would have been the easiest thing to do but that is not how I am wired. So, I have learned that a difficult path is easiest followed day by day and before you know it your on top of that formidable mountain.

Friendships:       I have been blessed with love and friendship from others. Some have been with me for a lifetime, some for less time and other have come and gone. They have impacted my life in positive ways, at least that is my definition and even those that have hurt me deeply, I can honestly say that I grew from the experience, forgave the pain and loved the moment they entered my life and was sad when they left. I would not change this aspect in my journey regardless of its eventual outcome. This experience has given me strength, character, resolve and taught me that it’s in the experiences and their complex internal and/or external resolution that ultimately define the people we become.

Jobs:                    I have had six jobs, yes the number “six” in my life from waiting tables to running a national department with enormous responsibilities. I don’t quit easily and looking back they all gave me something that I was missing (personal and career growth), a paycheck and a better lifestyle. One thing I did learn along the way is that “time” should be spent living (we only get one life) and that in combination with “lifestyle” it should afford us a “balance” that procures one’s overall contentment and or happiness.

Am I happy with whom I am? Absolutely! Should I seek that higher plain in personal fulfillment? Believe it or not that is exactly what I have been doing, blogging, writing, taking pictures, growing as an individual, taking step towards my retirement and having the freedom to do whatever needs to be done to accomplish my dreams. Am I specifically happy? Not about everything but honestly I think this is normal. Each one of us has those deficiencies and/or burdens that single handedly nag and try to take our joy away. It’s never going to be perfect, and stickily based on opinion, happiness is learning to live, grow and inter-phase within your environment and personal dimensions with equity and humility, keeping it simple and knowing tomorrow is a gift that is not a given. 

"Everyone’s equation is different and the rest is noise!" Diana Mary Sharpton (c) copyright 2017 A'' Rights Reserved

Rihanna’s “We All Want Love"(2) via special request and accompanying my opinion piece about "Personal Happiness". The video was uploaded on YOUTUBE, Nov 18, 2011 by RihannaVEVO.

Rihanna's genre is R&B/Soul and I have listed the lyrics for your continued reading pleasure.

"We All Want Love" (3)
We all, we all, we all, we all, we all
We all, we all, we all, we all, we all

I can pretend that I'm not lonely
But I'll be constantly fooling myself
I can pretend that it don't matter
But I'll be sitting here lying to myself
Some say love ain't worth the buck
But I'll give every dime I have left
To have what I've only been dreaming about

Everybody wants something
Gotta want something
What are you living for?
Everybody needs something
Fighting for something
I know what you're fighting for
Cause we all

We all want someone there to hold
We just want somebody
We all wanna be somebody's one and only
We all wanna be warm when it's cold
Yeah yeah yeah

No one wants to be left scared and lonely

We all, we all, we all, we all, we all
We all want the same thing
We all, we all, we all, we all, we all
We all want the same thing
We all, we all, we all, we all, we all
We all want the same thing
Everybody wants something
Gotta want something
Yeah, yeah we all want love

I'm able to close my eyes
Yet my heart's not so blind
I feel so entitled love owes me
I want what's mine

And some say love ain't worth the buck
But I'll give my last dime
To have what I've only been dreaming about

Everybody wants something
Gotta want something
What are you living for?
Everybody needs something
Fighting for something
I know what you're fighting for
Cause we all

We all want someone there to hold
We just want somebody
We all wanna be somebody's one and only
We all wanna be warm when it's cold
Yeah yeah yeah

No one wants to be left scared and lonely
We all, we all, we all, we all, we all

We all want the same thing
We all, we all, we all, we all, we all
We all want the same thing
We all, we all, we all, we all, we all
We all want the same thing
Everybody wants something gotta want something

Yeah yeah we all want love



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"The Honey Bee & His Rose" by Diana Mary Sharpton" (1b)
Music is a language and these are my final thoughts for this evening. May your day or evening be blessed with good health, unconditional love, light-hearten laughter, enormous success, and unending happiness.

Thank you for your continued support. I pray you are having a blessed week.

Peace and Love Always Diana

Sugar you have my love!

References:
1a.) Photograph: rihanna-talk-that-talk-tracklisting-13. http://www.poshthesocialite.com/2011/11/rihanna-talk-that-talk-track-listings.html
1b.) Photograph: "The Honey Bee & His Rose" by Diana Mary Sharpton"
2.)  Video: We All Want Love. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o8YxxmFTPdk
3.)  Lyrics: https://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/rihanna/weallwantlove.html
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